Wow, it is has been so long since I have added anything to this. My writing has gotten terrible so bare with me.
The other day at work I had a guy say to me, "you really need to hurry up and get married and have some kids, you are getting really old." I just kind of laughed at him, since I am only 30 and just turned 30 two months ago. But the sad thing is, it is not only him that thinks this way.
Being in the military, has turned me against marriage more and more, especially in the field that I work in. I read about all these domestic violence cases and all of these women calling in saying that their spouses are not paying them enough to live (even though they just got back from a cruise with their present boyfriend). I see so many people rush into marriages and get engaged two weeks after meeting someone. How can you possibly think you know someone after that short of period of time? What, because you know the first name and last name?
Prime example: I had someone who used to be in the same unit as me on my facebook page. Really didn't care much about him or what his profile updates were. He friend requested me while I was in Iraq and instead of being mean and denying it, I went ahead and accepted it. (Yes, sometimes I have a nice side). Anyhow, immediately after I changed my status from "in a relationship" to "single" he started messaging me telling me I was beautiful and so on. I blew him off. Long story short...about two weeks ago, he posted a picture of him and this girl and called her his fiance. I made a joke and said, "guess I missed out." The fiance, posing as him responded, we have been together a month and are happy. Me being who I am responded with, " a month and now you are engaged?" WOW. In North Carolina the law requires a couple to be separated for a year before they can file for divorce. I told this young couple that their separation was probably going to last longer than their marriage. Two days later, I received a phone call from an investigator trying to locate the female because she was not paying on her car and there were several other things the investigator needed to speak to her about. Oh yes, I let the guy know so hopefully he would know what he was about to marry. If it wasn't already too late.
I dont know if maybe it is because I am so independant that I don't ever want to rush into a marriage or just because I don't want to ever have to deal with a divorce. I look at these young people who are going on their third marriage and I just don't get it. Is it me? Or is it normal not to want to rush into a marriage with someone I don't know?
